There is a kind of love for men crazy! your other half is working, you see his Cup was empty, it will quickly give him continued full water? he need medication, you are his medicine where he reach place, or constantly urged him, do you want him to see medicine and you will think of you? are you travel back in time will buy him a bunch of clothes, whatever he liked, were all asked him to wear your love man crazy?
If you insist that this is just an expression of love without a fuss, so, you may be running against the man you love caring force!
There is no doubt that women increasingly autonomous and in gender relations are increasingly strong position, from jiedi growth rate can be seen.
And many men are no longer considered looking for a strong than oneself very embarrassed of his wife, and they are willing to life, feelings, and even economically dependent on women. But it will give a woman brings great satisfaction, the more they depend on, a woman the more satisfying, as everyone knows, has long since fallen into "care forced" trap. In the end, no matter his need, you are obliged to care for obsessive-compulsive disorder is attacked!!
1. What is the concern of obsessive-compulsive disorder?
The English original term is "Co-dependency" originally interactive dependence, is dependent on others for their dependencies. Not only is the one who always consciously or unconsciously to others they do not need care and help so that others cannot alone solve processing problems. But when his meticulous care is dependent on, he will self satisfied with this achievement and value to meet the access of moral superiority, otherwise there will be more strongly condemned and suffering. Excessive concern for others is actually "on other people need their own needs".
2. where caring force?
Whether man or woman to have such experiences as a child, your parents always winter will never think you least wear a dress, too cold in summer and think you ran two step, too hot to school dorm bedding habitual shop to you; your mother knew what you most love to eat her potatoes beef stew, still ask each time a delicious on? ... This excessive care and indulgence is a source and other is extreme effects in childhood, often beaten scolded or family is incomplete, it will enable people of "emotional library" were not met, grew up, she will want to meet the emotional need projection to your partner or children, by excessive meet the others, to compensate for the lack of their own feelings and needs.
3. Why are women more likely to have?
Latest data show that women in the United States, nearly 85% of women suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder, while in the care of mature and independent women particularly obvious. No matter how strong a woman, a woman's role is always "caregivers" role, thus requiring women "more love", the result will deliberately strengthening women's own "care", on male life aspects mothered, thereby weakening its own needs.
Of course, for excessive concern for parents, we take for granted can be understood as "poor parental love", but unfortunately, not a man with a heart "poor world wife" mind to understand your excessive care, on the contrary, the men in your excessive concern confused, they might be because I'm sorry you feel too good pressure, moreover, will rely on you to gradually lose the ability to live independently and inferiority worried ...
Now, let's listen to what men say:
"Mamy" enslaving trap
"I want to live on her life, because I know that she is the love I will pay this much. To my surprise, after 11 years of love, love lost, but more than one skin nanny. ”
Zhu days a 28-year-old advertising designers
I did have the Oedipus complex, from small to large, my mother taking me all the details of life. Now, we have lived together, she also to where I live packing room, she hoped that I would never grow up. Therefore, puberty, I was on my girlfriend's request: my mom can I do, you can do for me.
I am very high-handed, conquer desire is strong, and just like a personality is also very ambitious girl. Thus, the nature are always arguing, but never really end up arguing because. I know it's noisy and what is not good, is also a kind of Exchange that will promote the feelings. I don't like that kind of got relatives feel.
My ex-girlfriend at first really have personality, but it does not concern, nor do the housework and also have a lot of bad habits, I always said she. For example, our driving style, she likes the music of very loud, I tell her so prone to them, in particular, when fatigued driving.
Initially she will always carry with me, no notice of me, and we will fight for this. I also because she's talking to another a little close to temper, forbade her to another man on the phone, I know that my request was too much, in fact, I'm just saying that, in the heat of emotion, and don't really want her to do so.
Later she gradually changed a lot, I love to eat, she was learning to do, go to my parents house housework is a good, no matter how late I work overtime, she'll give me good, if I do not eat, she asked if I was no longer need her? think I left her. Apart from my friend, she isn't your friend. What I say is what makes me feel fun! I want to live a good life for her, because I know that she is because I care about I'll pay this much. But I didn't think 11 years later, the lovers lost, but more than one skin nanny. I do not like other girls, the final choice to break up with her. After breaking up with her and not used, several times I went back to his side, and even willing to wait for me to break up with a new girlfriend. I never thought
She will be with my mother, I left her can live very well this fact is completely unacceptable, and now she often went to see my parents.
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