Financial crisis: delayed gratification, can you?

If you to maintain weight, let you skip tonight's dessert you can "bear"? in order to reduce the chance of suffering from lung cancer, let you smoke a few cigarettes a day you can "hold"? in order to alleviate the distress at the end, let your little brush several pockets of gold card you can "stop"? we do every day to various kinds of decisions, many of the long-term benefits of obvious decision, such as smoking, alcohol, unhealthy diets, but we cannot at the moment is to resist the temptation ... But the tradeoff is that sooner or later have to pay, as immediate this excessive overdraft future financial crises.

Recall your four or five years old, if faced with the following two situations in which one would you choose:

1) give you a piece of cotton candy, you can eat immediately;

2) If after another twenty minutes, the second reward you, also is to have two hearts can eat cotton candy.

Which one would you choose? this is the last century in the 1960s, Stanford University, the famous "cotton candy test". At that time, one third of the children would not wish to make cotton candy into his mouth; one-third of the children, take a look at the cotton candy left, right and smell, saliva is fast stream out, finally couldn't resist the temptation, not to wait until the time limit in respect of sugar swallowed down; the remaining one-third of the children to stick at the end of the day, also laughing at the end of the day, in twenty minutes later they want to get a second cotton candy.

Fourteen years later, when these kids from high school graduation, one-third to the last of the children and other children compared to a surprising difference. They are more positive life attitude, self motivation, faced with the difficult to adhere to and be able to pursue the goal of suffering. Their behavior will make them even more than most people have a good marriage, the more successful business, higher incomes and more healthy and more successful life. While the temptation-proof child, adult, trouble, stubborn, hesitation, suspicious and not confident, but could not endure delayed gratification of desires, the external environment is vulnerable to interference, often leave the established goals and looking for immediate satisfaction, therefore, the impulse to become their life persistent Ghost, but once you can't get enough it is easy to become anxious and out of control. By contrast, their marriage, employment, health, and overall quality of life are not so satisfying.

Delay of gratification means that psychological maturity

For the long-term interests of voluntarily delaying currently enjoy, in psychology is known as delayed gratification. The study found that immediately meet with our emotional hub closely, and delayed abstraction managed to meet the reasoning, so delayed gratification is often psychological maturity, are also important components of emotional intelligence.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu in the siege of a section of text on grapes, "a bunch of grapes, optimist, will come from the worst of a grape and began to eat, eat the best grapes, hope remains in the head; pessimism on the other hand, the more grapes worse, having to despair. ”

In fact, the latter often cannot tolerate delay of gratification, they must immediately experience the satisfaction and joy, even if that overdraft in the future. Life, some people like to do something they like, always put his dislike of things to the last. Such as grapes, first pick good to eat, but sweet grape always disappear so fast, in the face of the remaining sour fruits, the previous good soon disappeared, faced with the need to address the problems nor the courage and power. Not only because the front of the "sweet" for immediate this heap more unable to swallow, but never any temptation and rewards worth looking forward to. This way of life not only let us start from happy to end the suffering, but also cause endless escape and delays. Today's sweet grape eaten, we will find sweet apples, sweet pineapple, or even an advance of tomorrow's or please borrow someone else 's, in short not to face up to mess it up.

Training delayed gratification ABCD

Even if you had chosen to the cotton candy quickly placed in the mouth, or sad. Psychology research has shown that delayed gratification is a everyone can ability to learn, we can learn through constant practice prior to eat good grape or bad balance found in grapes.

ABCD method has proven to be effective in helping us to strengthen the capacity of delayed gratification, which A representative acts, B represents now, C, D, on behalf of the representatives of the future change of policy. For example, your behavior is "doing things delay", the advantage is you can do what you like, but the future is waiting for you so that your headache pain and trouble. So what are the changing strategy? let us first look at the "cotton candy" test that adhere to the final third of the children do it. They have people in the eyes or headrest arms do sleep, work and the immediate cotton candy "isolation". So, delayed gratification is one of the important policy is and let's keep distance of reward distractions, such as in the plan when the difficult work or talks about in the front, or priority and others determine the deadline for these services, or do not like the work on the table while the likes of locks in a drawer. "Cotton candy test", there are kids singing with himself or transfer attention spend time to keep his desire. By the way a distraction or you can let us not be attracted by the immediate temptation, such as doing your headache work focuses on the work itself can reduce the negative emotions, or listen to a little impedance gentle music. Also, the short-term meet the long-term consequences or delay of gratification benefits materialize is also an effective incentives, such as to resolve a difficult to get the rewards attached to the computer.

In fact, these strategies can also be used for many other aspects of the culture of delayed gratification, such as the credit card at home, Pocket only some change, or to concentrate on writing reports when cut off network, no longer meet the eight diagrams; search for the next time you want to disregard the weight and big chew potato chips when up and do it Ka

Services, or when the next time you want to smoke and talk with people around you; the wall put up by fragrant smoked black teeth photos or a photo of yourself very PS slim photographs at the table.

Delayed gratification is not a happy said "no", but to help us to achieve short-term happiness and long-term gains for balance, life is becoming more and more sweet.

(Editors: 1m1m wind Ho)