Case study: the movies that cry decompression
Due to work pressure, best friends who are not there, what with Stella insensitive to their heart. A chance to recommend to her colleagues have a is said is very moving film. Weekend, Stella barricaded themselves in home and watch the film, the hero and heroine wistful feelings so that she cried just crashed. Crying after she found in a good mood, pressure was reduced. Thus, Stella by applying this method introduced to colleagues around, we tried a few times after that Sultan a lot. Now, Stella and her colleagues weekly fixed to find a "make people cry" movie, read a few individuals then after.
In the past, we heard of the "fans"; not long ago, and know the "Boomerang"; and more recently, in Beijing, some white-collar workers, like Stella so called "weekend crying family" Group again. They seem self-flagellation, passed on to literary and artistic works, the feeling of "crying" to resolve psychological pressure. It is understood that this decompression mode originated in Japan, white-collar workers who buy emotional film on DVD or book, looked side tears at home has become a fashion, it also makes a "tear film" and "cry's novel" as the representative of the sentimental culture in Japan.
Cry raised narcissism complex
Cry has always been seen as decompression. But such periodic crying is okay, but also reflect the psychological problems of the modern human what? first, crying is human emotional instability, psychological fragile manifestations. Yes, it can temporarily relieve stress, but if this situation persists, it is difficult to get a real psychological problems. This is like a neural obsessive-compulsive disorder patient, always wash your hands and repeatedly, but he wash process only temporarily alleviate his anxiety. In fact this vent is unhealthy, continues also aggravate his pain. As a means of catharsis, cry will make you feel empty and boring, depression, pain, and detrimental to people's mental health.
Secondly, use shut himself up cries of decompression, largely due to lack of friendship and love. Most of these people are single, or too many friends to talk to. As a result, had to rely on movies and books moved himself, by the way, cry instead of affection, friendship, love, care, comfort, which is also under the weight of the helpless.
Finally, always crying will induce human narcissism complex, long-term, will feel even more lonely. Crying is the person's activities, and when people see themselves as a guest to enjoy playing with, their subjective or initiative will gradually diminish, self function will be deprecated, thus forming a self-defeating personality, much like Lin Daiyu, ultimately resulting in crying depression. Moreover, the crying of narcissism complex always make people feel that they were wronged, always feel that society on its own is not fair that other people do not know yourself so don't trust other people, even more lonely.
Closed itself will not solve the problem
Decompression methods have a lot, since the "cry" is a temporary solution, so how do you adjust mentality, deal with stress?
From a subjective point of view, they need to go to the reality of life, learn to communicate more with people, not just self escape, self closed. At the same time, to change the trust in others, always afraid of being hurt the fragile mental, when you're honest, others will treat you.
In addition, we must strive to make our lives richer, weekend boring, that's more out for a walk, exercise, fitness, travel to decompression, rather than locked himself in a room with TV or love novel cry chuchukelian. Even too lazy to go out and find some positive literary, film and video. These people may feel that the outside world, in fact, one of self-flagellation is more dangerous.
(Editors: Dawn 1m1m)
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