Help-just across psychological disorders

In this increasingly emphasizes the independent society, many people find that asking for help is a particularly embarrassing thing, often the "can I ask you something?" Such a simple thing, but in my mind around the numerous bends, and still difficult to export xiuxiudada. The problem is in one word "seek", we are strong, education yourself do it yourself, we're not good at weak. However at this increasingly promote resource sharing world seeking to solve the problem is probably the most convenient way. For most people, the need is a set of mental disorder.

Please help the baby neighbor

Need to overcome psychological barriers: I'm sorry, friend, too little, critical and could not even close help.

Children old enough to kindergarten, this is a pleasure, but the children to go to kindergarten on the first day back in a need for parents to fill out a note but hey to difficult to call. Your child's teacher asked parents to provide an emergency contact list, that is, if one got and her husband are not received on time from school, kindergarten the son who do I contact?

Mr. Hey and husbands are not in the basic local, friends are white-collar workers, taking the time to pick up her child is obviously not true. After much deliberation, only the neighbor Mrs. Wang Ling as one full-time is relatively quiet. But usually the neighbors contacts, so finding the right House? and Zhang Hey more worried about is, if you so find Wang Ling, Wang Ling would think she was pitiful, certainly because no other friends, to get me this unfamiliar place!

Psychoanalysis: in fact, occasionally to others for help, do not feel embarrassed, not to feel shame, should that know how to ask for help is an advantage. Because this represents the you can correctly identify their ability and know how to make reasonable arrangements in advance. Seek assistance from others may display your weaknesses, such as Zhang Hey it could display her critical and could not even get people to help. But learn timely to the appropriate person for help is not only conducive to resolve the problem, while also significantly expanding their social interactions. In fact, as long as you are willing to lay down their shelves, admit that they have so little fragile, in return, the others will be happy to give you help.

Outcome: Hey courage to neighbors speak out on their own request, Wang Ling said he was happy to help you become one of the emergency contact Hey boy. Benefits also in addition, Mr. Hey also harvest a good friend, and now they often join chats, shopping, afternoon tea.

Others can also do things

Need to overcome psychological barriers: if I do not personally, it would not be able to do. Their psychological background is, if I do someone to produce their own control.

Money blue 42-year-old, she never believe that someone's driving skill, so no matter where the son is she personally drive, although this means that time, the cost of gasoline is not low, she still could not accept the children take a bus to go home, worried son sitting on someone else's car with them.

Psychological analysis: from parents worried about inner instincts can understand, but if too worried parents or children are not healthy.

For many people, doing it themselves appear to be safer and perfection, for example, allow yourself to 10 year old learning to wash the dishes, washing dirty may have their own rework; party friend to help clean up after the greeting, it is better to stay up on my own. But you have to think so: "son learn the dishes should be more important! home a bit of a mess is the end of the world?" Let it go.

To receive help at the same time means that you give up control, full trust each other, and to believe that someone can get this thing done.

Outcome: money green heard a classmate and son lived a community, parents can take turns to children, and the courage to join this carpool activities. Results in the process of getting acquainted with carpool more new friends, money Green also found other stunts you can trust.

Seek help to note some of the skills

When you're looking for someone to help, to make someone feel you seek help very necessary and important to you, like you said, "it might be a little cumbersome, but to me really important"; when the time to understand the hesitation to other steps, "I understand that this matter to you, there may be some difficulty. Do not matter, I think another way. ”

There is important in seeking help when you want to make someone feel when they have a difficult time, you also must not stand idly by.

If you are not sure whether the promised each other that hear "no", no problem, this person directly said "no", at least give you enough time to look for the next person.

There are things you can do to colleagues

Need to overcome psychological barriers: I will not be considered capacity is not enough, not qualified for the job?

Li Qiang was appointed Director of the Office, working range increased a lot, but for him, this new post has many things to learn. But even if he has been busy, when other colleagues ask him to help me what to do, he will try to meet. In fact, he also understand that it's a big part of the can to other colleagues to do, but he didn't say it, but he put all these things to carry.

Psychoanalysis: Li Qiang concern mainly two aspects, one is just assumed they do matter to colleagues, there is a suspicion of command, the second is to colleagues seeking help will let leadership considers itself not competent. Encounter this problem not find colleagues help is a waste of resources, many colleagues hope for others to provide professional assistance, but also through the help and the help you can quickly and colleagues established a better relationship.

Outcome: learned to work with colleagues to share, let their subordinates and the boss that Li Qiang is a very good team, is a team player.

Accept the doorsteps of kindness

Need to overcome psychological barriers: I don't want to give my friends some trouble.

' Autumn new House, a good friend volunteered to go to new homes Daniel Chan Kwong-on help her to paint the walls, to buy furniture and decoration, curtains, etc. Although ' autumn love and appreciation of aesthetic point Daniel Chan Kwong-on, and know that she's doing with the experience, you can learn many things, but she is very worried, Daniel Chan Kwong-on leave, every day from the city the first drive to the other side, almost a week spent at her new home work is not very suitable?

Psychoanalysis: autumn in fact do so nervous, because ultimately the decision depends on each other. Requirement is her, she will be judged and decided this thing to do. Most people are very enthusiastic, especially you have in the past to help people.

Outcome: autumn accepted friends kindness help. But the fact is, it is urgent to see their old friend Daniel Chan Kwong-on the same very happy. They purchased together, side for autumn painting and decorating new House reminiscing of those old fun. ' Autumn also learned a lot of renovation and repair of small skills.

(1m1m responsible editor: dongdong)