"Jonathan" in our success

"Jonathan" is a character inside the Bible. He is a devout Christian, and have always wanted to be God-sent. God has given him an Honorable task, go to announce amnesty a would have been offences destroyed city – the city of Nineveh. Jonah has resisted this task, he ran away, continue to evade his belief in God. The power of God, look for him to wake him up, corrections, and even make him a great fish to swallow him. Finally, after he repeatedly and hesitation, repentance, and completed his mission — Announces Nineveh city amnestied. "Jonathan" refers to the generation of those who desire to grow again because some inner obstacles and fear of growing up. For Jonah, he is not willing to achievement of God because of hatred. This he asked Chief pardon Nineveh city is destroying his family's archenemy.

God to Jonah to Nineveh city to a message, this is a lofty mission and a high honor and Jonathan alter-long. But once the ideal a reality, and feel a fear, feel good, trying to avoid imminent success, tried to push but suddenly comes to honor. This kind of success before fear, psychologists are called "Jonah complex".

Jonah complex of basic features can be divided into two areas, one in his own, one in others. On their own, "Jonathan complex" is characterized by growth, come to their senses and escape from the refusal to assume the great mission; to others, "Jonathan complex" characteristic is that if someone has shown excellent, he would envy, if someone was blessing, he would be miserable, if others down, he'll be delighted.

Simply put, is the fear of growing up. It originates from the psychological dynamics of an assumption that people not only fear of failure, fear of success. It reflects an "own greatness of fear", is an emotional state, and we do not dare to do what you can do very well, even escape to discover their own potential. In daily life, Jonah complex may appear to lack ambition, or called "pseudo ignorance".

Maslow's hierarchy to his students in class, they raised the following question: "in your class who want to write out the United States the greatest novels?" and "who aspires to become a Saint?" and "who will become a great leader?" and so on. According to Maslow's record, his students in this case, all the usual reactions are giggling, red face, disturbed to creep. Maslow also asked: "you are quietly planning to write a great psychology to do?" they usually red face, stumbled FOB. Maslow also asked: "you do not intend to become a psychologist?" someone answered, "of course want to. "Maslow said:" do you want to be a bit reticent and cautious of psychologists? what? that's not an ideal way to self-realization. ”

Human beings are prevalent in the complex of a Jonah, i.e. not the pursuit of high demand, the pursuit of excellence, noble self-actualization, but instead, to avoid the high demand, to avoid for excellence, noble human behavior. People as naive romantic as ridiculous, as honest as gullible as Frank as ignorance, as generous as the lack of judgement, depending on the work of passion as cowardly as sympathetic as cheap and blind.

"Jonah complex" issue is that, their fear of the famous, if someone made a name for himself, he is jealous, I wish someone in trouble. This complex of impeding life growth and self-realization, Maslow to it named Jonah complex.

Hatred is in real life most commonly found in the inner reasons impeding growth. We can often be observed in this case, a clever young man, he did very well in school, but on the eve of the college entrance examination suddenly fell ill that he lost an opportunity to test. Later he worked, the capacity is so strong that quite appreciated. But he's about to get a key promotion, he resigned ... Although these things from happening seemingly accidental, but in-depth contact with his inner world, we will find that his heart was buried on parents not to air their grievances. In order to subconsciously revenge parents ' wishes, his subconscious destroyed their own future. Its potential can articulate the desire as follows: "you can't have a successful son, I just want to let you down and suffering!"

As a female, for growth and success of fear behind the often unconscious beliefs: "if I become a good person, you will not find a suitable man to go with me, I'll be lonely life. "For women with this belief," their "also means" lost love ". Love needs and realization of self needs equally so important that any depression brings personality of neurotic tendencies.

These internal conflicts sometimes can be realized, but most of the time, it is latent inhibition in the unconscious.

People not only from their lows, but also from their peak. Not afraid of the possibility of their minimum, but also fear their highest potential. "Jonah complex" development to the extreme, "self-destruct complex", that is, in the face of honor, success, happiness and good things always come to the "I'm not worthy", "I can't stand the idea of", eventually gave the opportunity to abandon daoshou.

Most of us are deep inside the "Jonah complex" psychologists are analysis, this is because when we were young, due to its limitations and immature, prone to "I can't", "I do" and other negative thoughts, if the environment did not provide sufficient security and opportunities for their development, these thoughts are always with us. Especially when the opportunity arrives successfully, these mental performance is particularly evident. Because we want to seize the chance of success, it means that you want to pay a considerable efforts in the face of the many unexpected changes, and may result in failure.

No doubt, "Jonathan complex" is the balancing their inner psychological pressure. We actually have a chance of success, but in the face of the opportunity, only a few people dare to break the balance, understanding and overcoming their own "

Jonah complex "responsible and pressure, eventually seize and obtain the chance of success. This is why only always successful minority, and most people have a mediocre.

(Editors: Dawn 1m1m)