Male midlife crisis 5 big performance

Male-to-middle age this critical period, due to factors such as family pressures often produce escape mental, but what is the performance of midlife crisis? male midlife crisis is a disease? family psychological pressure and avoid causing male midlife crisis? you to middle-aged men? look like, the crisis of five performance?

Please allow me to use a certain gentleman's words, as beginning: "I have this error is not, as some foes say is technically not care, but the structure shown a significant midlife crisis.

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Structural midlife crisis, (Midlife crisis), hereinafter referred to as "midlife crisis, also called male midlife crisis, is the Western approach to the problem of social psychology, many psychologists are made for this different, on the 1960s, Jung 's" midlife crisis "that he believed that 35 to 40-year-old crisis reached its peak when; subsequently, also a member of David Hitti that 40 to 50 years old is difficult too.

Sitai Fu said that according to his study of 100 men and women, found that 34 to 42, managers were 80% are not immune; Yale Professor Lee Thompson argues, the 35 to 45-year-old is the obvious crisis period. Some people believe that a major mid-life crisis is not determined by physiological age, but rather a person's psychological state. A properly prepared people more smoothly through the waves.

Midlife crisis manifested

1. the undertakings

Tags: silent

Expert analysis: for many middle-aged man, at this point the most prized career achievement.

When the enterprise encountered difficulties, they choose to be silent and escape to treat, plus the repression inside, so you cannot see things, easy to make the wrong decision, even extreme behavior, situation in severe cases, may even choose to commit suicide as the escape method. In particular, are now in the global financial crisis, is a man's career is going downhill, as a middle-aged man, they do not choose to share with the people around and talk to her, but to all the questions in my mind, so depressed will result in a vicious cycle, leading to the occurrence of extreme events.

Case study: 41-year-old Liu has recently been insomnia, colleagues in discussing the company may be commenced against the economic crisis, reduce spending big layoffs.

Tai Liu jinliang; company for ten years, finally achieved the position of the head, this time in previous years, he considered the most is the year-end bonus many, but now he was afraid of being fired, his Dick and recent work status Dayong, may substitute for him. This is no way to tell his wife said, anyway, and she can't help it, perhaps also nag troublemaker; parents more elderly people cannot be said that the subject does not stimulate; talk to friends also said not to export, too embarrassing. He even even before like in online grievances habits have lost interest, even talk of desire.

2. the family

Keywords: pressure

Expert analysis: 40 years of older men if the family, children and even adults, young people entering their need for bear the economic burden of larger, and this pressure is often lead to family change.

Entering middle age men, refused to admit his old larger reality, they will try to prove themselves through emotional still has the capacity of the conquest, but at the same time, they would not undermine the stability of the family, and therefore tend to choose a one night stand, bubble nightclubs, etc. At the same time, due to the social reasons, 40 years old man and his wife age gap between are usually small, their wives may exist "midlife crisis", both the probability of conflict is greatly increased, become home to fuse.

Case study: on this day, the old guard's wife at the seemingly oblivious to tell him the other day at the mall to see a young woman a'hua and intimacy to the children eat a cup of ice cream: "do not know his wife know?"

Old guard did not speak out, this thing in their gang of 40 or so students early is not news, not only big head, small a'hua, grams, the village has a "girlfriend", the age is not more than 25-year-old little girl, now is openness, have threatened: like mature men, does not require a birthright, happy enough. The old guard who also hold positions, but he also feared that often in the River, which have not defiled! married 15 years, life dull than plain water also tasteless, there is no guarantee that when you do not want to drink a Pepsi sprite.

3. learning

Keywords: stale

Expert analysis: middle-school-time is too long, and if there is no continuing learning, enhance their own, they can only use previously learned to deal with their work and family issues.

In this case, their parent-child relationship may be relatively poor, they get along with their child's remains in accordance with their own fathers, that is, the world's 40 's parents and they get along mode between, and use 1940s parents parent-child relationship to treatment in the 1980s and 1990s, the gap obstacle is obvious, easily lead to poor parent-child relationship; and in their career, their knowledge systems have not been updated, you cannot make their own career get promoted, in particular the new emerging workplace, fierce competition, it is easy to make the middle-aged man was eliminated.

Case study: Zhu weekend free very boring, call for a long time not to contact a friend of mine, about his tea.

Each other on the phone said: I have classes in the afternoon, not empty. Zhujiajiao Grand delusion: class you now a age also what class? someone said: old is something you want to learn more, or to keep up with the times. Put down the phone, though quite heavily, the night away at it as a joke to his wife to: 40 years of age also learn what learning! like we this age, early in the learning phase, books to school where life experience good? aside son interjected: who said that learning is the ages, and to promptly update. Zhujia history: people say that the kids don't interrupt.

4. psychological

Key words:

Escape

Expert analysis: here is a middle-aged man's personal psychological mood change.

Modern man's menopause is gradually reducing the trend, as men, their physiological effect "menopause" and not clear, more of a "psychological menopausal" appears, including depression, anxiety, irritability, easily fatigued, self-pity, escape, and other negative emotions, on the life feeling boring. One of the most serious negative emotion is depressed and escape. And women, women can talk to resolve, but man does not choose to talk to people around. At the same time, the performance of midlife crisis lies in their escape from the others on its evaluation of now, most of the time they are immersed in the memory of his past, gained glory and personal satisfaction, this is the current status of escaping from them.

Case study: ADA youth is a famous DJ, swept the thousands of girls, and as the first contact with the Internet's a group of people, he created the opportunity network, also make a lot.

Of course this is a thing of the past, and now as a middle-aged man, not Chi-he does not know where their own direction, and he also knew that the 40-year-old all over again is not an easy thing. Although girlfriend claimed did not mind his career and economic difficulties, but he didn't mind the illusion is only temporary, but to his present capacity, and there is no way to each other a "home", he did not want to give yourself too much pressure, so he choose to avoid, never make about anything that can drag you drag.

5. interpersonal

Tags: closed

Expert analysis: the crisis of human relationships, is built on the psychological mood changes before personal and learning ability.

They meet with the status quo, at the exclusion of new things, there is also a negative emotion, lack of learning ability in friends, life in a still-life environment, in particular the forties generation experience suffering more, they will be more prone to blame social ideas, easy to produce the enclosed personal relationship, so that their problems more in favor of the stubborn, early into old age.

Case study: Yan Shu-every Wednesday night fixed and a bunch of friends, playing mahjong, drink a beer.

These are met more than 20 years of junior high school students, this friendship remarkably held until today. Students are not to Chi, the most successful Awa family is a problem, the daughter of broken, day in and day out with a bunch of small muddling along the street is a frustrating, useless, called useless; others have laid-off, doing the work to connect are depressing middle-aged people. All together, is the best time, grievances at the same time listen to other people's opinions, I have also found relatively balanced, then the society together called scolding injustice. Yan Shu-think that only with this group of friends is the most comfortable, most happy together with other people, he could not get this feeling.

(Practice editing: Li red)